Dating a girl with borderline personality
Drexel overcame the stifling social difficulties of Asperger’s syndrome and fast proceeded to sleep with over 140 girls.
He gets dates and gets laid almost entirely through girls he meets at work, at parties, and in social circle.
Another thing that will happen, hopefully, is that your standards will raise for what kind of person you allow into your life.
I'm not just talking about women, either: your standards will raise even for male friends and colleagues once you become more confident, find your voice, and begin to stand up for what you believe in.
Instead, what I see too often is a man falls head over heels in love and gets himself in too deep, too soon. Her favorite pattern is leopard and her jewelry looks like it came from a fishing lure box. Feels terrible about herself, so must do what she can to get validation that she's worthy and desirable. These women can have a baby at the snap of a finger, love sex, preferably during ovulation, and just won't use birth control. Counting on your soft heart, her story mirrors a Greek tragedy. Will drop you when she finds "someone better," even though we all know he's much worse.
Before his heart has palpitated a dozen times, the part of him that loves to rescue and fix kicks in and he makes plans to remodel her house, buy her a car, pay for some plastic surgery, and take her on some cool vacations. She's charming as all get-out, and sex and attention are the bait. Hell-raiser and non-conformist, no matter her age, she's 17 for life. When she feels you're off your game you'll find her talking with someone else. They'll get pregnant and may want you to stick around and help raise the child, but most importantly, she'll appreciate the child support you'll be paying. Abandoned by her parents, she was raised in an orphanage where they forgot to feed her and boy is she hungry now - for you to support her.
Because of this, they often have feelings of shame, and others truly are afraid of them and their behaviors.
The only way this can change is to continue to spread accurate information about the experience of having BPD and to have more of us share our stories in a human, open way.
The sad thing is it could all be prevented if guys would approach women differently - with a skeptical attitude where trust is gained over a significant period of time. I think two years of dating will tell a person 90 percent of what they need to know. Can't be alone so must have a relationship lined up at all times and at all cost. Note: I recently wrote a list of red-flag warnings for women about men, and I promised equal time to help men. Woman have brought men misery, ecstasy, and everything in between for millions of years, and that is not likely to change anytime soon. So there's the short list, fellows - I truly hope it helps.The only way men could possibly make it through the dating scene in one piece is to learn the art of how to choose a woman who is most likely to enhance his life over the long haul, avoid the ones who are purveyors of pain, and I am here to help. At least one in 10 women has one, so educate yourself - the most common ones are Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissism, Sociopath, and Dependent Personality Disorder. It breaks my heart to see a man in my office who feels like a complete fool after having been duped by a woman who used and abused him in her own self interest. We all know that Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) carries with it lots of stigma that causes its sufferers to often feel ashamed and ostracized A great deal of the work that I do with this website and all over the world involves putting human faces to the diagnosis -- a dx that is so often grossly misunderstood.That's why you can imagine how saddened and emotionally triggered I was last night when, during my daily perusing of the net for articles on BPD and DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) I came across a blog post with the title, "Never Date a Girl with Borderline Personality Disorder." (First off - don't Google it to click on it -- you'll only make the search engines think it's a topic we are looking for and possibly give the article a higher ranking -- the opposite of what we want to do with materials like this.